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Sensory Overload

Pet and I had a child free night on Friday.  Those of you with children at home will understand that an entire evening with no chance of interruption and no need to be quiet is truly a treat.  We took full advantage and enjoyed a nice, long training session.

I’m happy to report that she performed remarkably well,  beginning by making dinner in her sexiest lingerie.  Afterward, I was able to practice tying a chest harness and give her bottom extended attention with my hand, flogger and multiple paddles while she stood restrained.  I also used the opportunity to experiment with sensory deprivation.  Pet spent an hour on the bed, completely immobilized, with a blindfold and headphones playing while I teased her with various implements.  She had no idea what was coming next and was jumping at the slightest touch after nearly an hour of edging.  When I allowed her to cum, she did so repeatedly and loudly.  My good girl was left a quivering, soaked mess.

Afterwards, we talked about the experience and she fell asleep in my arms with her head on my chest, totally spent.  It was a wonderful ending to a perfect evening.

I look forward to reading Pet’s thoughts on the experience in a post of her own soon.

Sir 

 

Good Spank, Bad Spank

Discipline, a seemingly simple concept, is something I’ve given quite a bit of thought to lately.  It is a necessary part of a healthy D/s relationship.  Inappropriate or defiant behavior and speech must be corrected, but there are varying opinions of how best to do so.  I suspect that the answer is highly individual and that there is no end-all best solution for everyone.  The following is how I have decided to proceed.  For reference, the term impact will be used to refer to all striking activities (spanking, paddling, flogging, caning, etc..)

Verbal discipline will always be involved.  For some infractions, a stern talk may be sufficient on it’s own.  In situations where it is not, Pet still needs to know what she is being disciplined for.  Even when very obvious, there is a benefit to having her acknowledge what she did and restate it.

More serious offenses, such as being deliberately defiant, will call for more severe discipline.  This is where some uncertainty has come into play for me personally.  The majority of D/s couples, from what I can gather, use impact for discipline.  On the surface, this seems very simple and commonsense.  But I’ve recently read a few blogs where the Dominants purposely leave impact out of the discipline process.  They opt for other methods such as hours of sensory deprivation or standing in the corner.  The reasoning is not lost on me.  Many couples enjoy impact and find it a pleasurable activity.  This can lead to the sub ‘bratting’ to receive discipline, undermining the purpose.  More seriously, there is the risk of both partners being conditioned mentally to associate impact with negativity, even when done sexually or for training.

Unfortunately for Pet and I, the time intensive alternatives aren’t viable so I am forced to compromise and mitigate those risks.  We discussed for a bit the idea of using different items for ‘good spanking’ or ‘bad spanking’.  She told me that, for her, the pain is a good reminder but what really hurts is to know that she has disappointed me.  This reinforces my thoughts on the verbal aspect.

After many days of consideration, I’ve decided the following.  I will continue to use impact for both training and discipline with Pet.  The intensity and implement will vary accordingly but the primary difference will be verbal.  If impact is for training, I will always preface by saying “This is not for discipline.  You have done no wrong.”  When it is used for discipline, that will be made very clear beforehand and during.  My hope is that following distinct ‘rituals’ will isolate the two scenarios.  If not, we will adjust.

Sir

Spank me…

Last night Sir started my training…I was praised for doing well of taking care of the house and the kids.  And my greedy pussy was of course getting wet as Sir praised me. It makes me happy that I have pleased Him. But then I got reprimanded because Sir believed I was playing with my tits as we talked and He asked why my mouth and hands weren’t on Him.  I rolled over and began kissing and biting my Master’s body. When I finished paying attention to his body, He moved me to my stomach and put the cuffs on my wrists behind my back.

I cannot put into words what this moment meant.  My training up to this point has been more verbal reprimands and suggestions and I was actually excited to begin this physical aspect of it.  To outsiders of the D/s lifestyle, it may seem abusive and even barbaric.  To many of my progressive thinking friends, it would be a direct slap in the face to women’s rights and abhorred by feminists everywhere.

But to me, it is another step to giving myself fully to the man I love and trust.  I have always been an independent, strong willed person and to give my trust and control over to my Sir is the greatest gift I have.   It was painful but with each strike of His hand on my ass and upper legs, I felt impossible closeness to my Master. Afterwards, he massaged lotion gently on my bottom and gave me kisses and praise. When Sir was done I had tears in my eyes and was breathing hard, not because of the pain of the spanking but because of the love I felt.